The Kidtime tone meter reads your draft before you send, flags hostility, and offers a neutral, child-focused rewrite — so every message lands the way you meant it.
The meter flags loaded words, sarcasm, and blame so you can pause and reconsider before it hits your coparent’s phone.
Every flagged message comes with three rewrites based on proven family-law communication methods — pick the one that fits the moment.
Tone scanning runs on demand and is never stored with your message record. You stay in control of what gets sent.
Reduce back-and-forth, avoid screenshots going to court, and keep your coparenting channel focused on the kids.
Each rewrite is based on a communication framework that family-law attorneys and high-conflict specialists have been recommending for years. The meter picks the one that fits your draft — you pick the one that fits your situation.
Developed by high-conflict attorney Bill Eddy, the BIFF method keeps messages short, factual, and respectful. Best for most day-to-day coparenting: scheduling, logistics, and routine updates where you want to stay civil without being cold.
Grey Rock strips a message down to one or two sentences of pure fact with no emotional handles. Often recommended when the other parent is high-conflict or narcissistic and uses responses to fuel more conflict.
Yellow Rock is the gentler cousin of Grey Rock — still brief and unemotional, but with enough warmth that it reads well in court. Many family-law attorneys prefer it when messages may be reviewed by a judge, mediator, or parenting coordinator.
BIFF is a trademark of the High Conflict Institute. Kidtime uses the framework as guidance; we aren’t affiliated with or endorsed by the Institute.
“You’re ALWAYS late to pickup. I can’t believe I have to remind you about your own kids AGAIN.”
“Just a heads up — pickup was at 4 and I wanted to make sure we’re aligned for tomorrow. Let me know if the time still works.”
“Whatever, I guess I’ll just handle the school forms myself like I always do.”
“I can take the school forms this week if that’s easier. Want me to send you a copy once they’re in?”
Before you send, Kidtime analyzes your draft using a fast language model and surfaces a tone read — calm, heated, passive-aggressive — with an optional one-tap rewrite suggestion. You decide whether to send, edit, or swap in the rewrite.
Yes. Tone analysis happens only when you opt in, is processed for the scan itself, and is not used to train models. Your messages stay inside your Kidtime record.
Only if you want it to. Rewrite suggestions are optional — you’re always free to send your original draft. The goal is to give you a second set of eyes, not to edit you.
Yes. Each coparent can opt in independently. When both of you use the tone meter, average message temperature tends to drop quickly.
Download Kidtime and turn on the tone meter in a tap.